Don't Blog here anymore

Yes, that's what this blog is about. To inform all those who chance upon this page that I don't blog here anymore. I blog at this place.

So sorry if you have been here by some links that I've forgotten to update.

Cheers
- Bhavesh

The World Cup Win

India had already won the semi-final against Pakistan (almost a final) and I witnessed the usually boring, junk-food eating Ghatkopar erupt like never before. With those visuals in mind, one could only tell what scene would it be if India goes on to win the world cup. Friends had told their homies they’d be out the whole night, celebrating. I guess no one realized they’d be going home if India lost. People knew they were celebrating tonight.
The match was underway and every wicket, a run saved, every four and every six was appreciated. Nasik dhol at the local nakas, DJ music at the sports bars, roars and claps at those watching in their houses – a grand celebration was waiting to happen. The fall of an Indian wicket was mourned and the Lankans were cursed. Though the only dip of the day was seeing Sachin get out early and not get his 100th – 100. Perhaps the men God had chosen to see India through were Gambhir & Dhoni.
I don’t understand why people don’t think Gambhir is a great batsman to have in the side. He’ previous three 50’s in the tournament didn’t make a big splash but sure were worthy contributions. He certainly showed why he deserved to be on my wall for the past year and sure deserves to be in the future.
Dhoni – well not the most technical batsman and also not a favorite with me, the captain had scored just 155 runs in the tournament so far. He comes out to bat up the order in a stage like the world cup final despite the poor form. Men of great deeds, take up great risks on the biggest of platforms. What a time to rise up & get those 91 runs. The man deserved to hit those world cup winning runs for Indian cricket after 28 years.
The moment suddenly hit us, yes, India had won the world cup after 28 long years. We’re the world champions in a sport we eat, drink and sleep. The man we all love – Sachin Tendulkar finally accomplished his dream of being in the world cup winning team. What more the people of a cricket loving nation like ours ask for! Dream Come True
As expected, the party plans were on. Every Indian was high – high with happiness and joy. (Some other inducing things helped as well)
I visited Ghatkopar, Santacruz, Khar, Carter Road, Juhu and scenes were the same everywhere – one word: EPIC. People were out on the streets, on their car roofs waving the tricolor and chanting – INDIAAAA INDIAAAA. Everyone was waved back at, you just had to be an Indian today and you were a brother. I met a friend after years amidst the celebrations – didn’t greet each other with the regular hello and hey. Instead we hugged and shouted Indiaaa at each other. The language spoken was the same everywhere, echoes of just one word in the entire city – India. I’m pretty sure the scenes where similar in Delhi, Chandigarh, Ahmedabad, Kolkata, throughout the country.
It’s amazing how 15 men are the reason why a billion people were so happy. They made a difference to their regular life surrounded by scams, corruption, poverty and shooting prices. People forgot all of that and danced away in adulations of the feat achieved by the ‘Men in Blue’.
The day the country has witnessed, will definitely have a lasting impact on its soul. I’m sure this will go to be amongst the happiest days of many people’s lives. Mine certainly.
More than winning the cup, more than winning it for Sachin, this world cup will be remembered for making us feel Indian again. As good as having our Independence back, all over again.

Whoooo! Indiaaa!
Jai Hind

- Bhavesh Dodi(y)a

To whomsoever it may concern

Dear YOU,

Often when I’m alone, I always like to think about all the rough roads I trekked. You know when I was in college, my friends told me, “Hey Rob, you would make it big someday.” I don’t know if I made it big but I think I did pretty okay for myself. Right now I’m seated in my recliner in my big apartment with a luxury car parked in the garage downstairs. I’m doing great my people say and I wouldn’t like to deny. Though in college, I had bigger aspirations. I loved my friends beyond anyone & wanted everything I wished to have in life, for my friends as well. Success, fame, money, health, happiness – I always thought we’d all achieve it together. How emotional and sentimental! Yeah, those times didn’t require brains to think. My friends were everything to me.


Me with my college frnds

Often we all friends tried doing work together just on my insistence because I wanted to defy a line – you’re always alone at the top. I wanted to have my friends all the way to the top & higher. When the passion for work doesn’t match in a team, it only fails. We failed too, may be because others didn’t want to achieve things as fast as I wanted to, as the way I wanted to or what I wanted to. Though we were very close to each other, combining life – we all had different callings.
Once when life turned soar for me – I thought I should be seeking my friends help but it was my battle & for once after defying and failing, I wanted to accept & practice – you’re always alone at the top!

Infact, I was out of any other option.

At the age of 17, I stayed in an unknown city for 7 days with hardly any money to survive for work. I remember once I was so scared, I cried like a baby. I was all alone. I failed but didn’t give up. At the age when my pals enjoyed the best of college after times, I rushed to travel 20miles to work and sell something I had no idea of. I don’t know how I survived the lie to myself that I can sell it. The only rest I had was in the train when traveling. No one to pat me on the back and assure me, tough times wouldn’t last. I was all alone.
Despite of everything, I continued working – did whatever work I got. Studied, got into something I loved doing & now I’m here. During the time of my way up, I gave up on a lot of things. Affection, expression, love, family, many things. Someone had told me that time, there is a time for everything. I hardly met friends, they thought I didn’t care. Family relatives & their functions bored me, successful people made me want to become big, love was not in the time frame anywhere. I trekked, I trekked and I trekked all alone & I reached somewhere in life.
I’m Rob, successful, young, self made & happy with whatever I have managed to do with life. Today’s my 28th birthday & I have one resolution made in life- I don’t want to be alone anymore just because life is what it is because of the people in it and the drama they create. Its this time for me now...doing things for others, sharing and caring.


Life throws a few interesting dilemma’s to me:
- Should I go back to my old college friends and we all try to do something once again? I’d love to, but I don’t know how’d they react? Our lives and priorities would be more different now.
- Should I meet new people & try making great new friends? Would I able to love them the way I loved my old friends?
- Should I go find love and find the lady of my life & tell her to fix things for me...ha ha! I so want to love and be loved.
The only reason I’m penning this one is because I’ve decided I’d seek someone’s help. Yeah I should have balanced things, yeah done all things simultaneously and blah and blah. I know I’ve screwed up a bit, well actually messed up big time to be honest. Well, this is where I stand right now?


Tell me what to do?

Yours truly,

Rob
(Your next door loner with a reason)

My Lost Friend

When a relationship ends,
what hurts most is not that the relation ended,
it’s the way two people behave as complete strangers
whom we once thought we can’t just live without

Alright, alright, not necessarily the relationship you’re probably thinking about. I’ve not gone through a break up, so no girlfriend-boyfriend sob stories.

Let me begin with some introduction of what I want to share:-
I’ve been friends with this girl and we shared great chemistry with each other. I distinctly remember my rapport with her and the bonding I shared with her could give their boyfriends a run for their money. I never intended to stamp over her ‘the best friend tag’ but I think we became. And we never touched the emotional part & confessing feelings, we just had fun talking to each other and that’s it.
CUT TO REALITY:
We get busy in our lives so much; we miss out on a few people. On a lone Sunday, when you’ve got nothing to do, you just treasure the times and think of reconnecting with the person. I was sure she would be courteous because we didn’t just have to be in touch always, but when we connect it’s like lots of catching up. So, I knew there would be lots of things to talk about. Also, it was really a long gap of time we talked. It was never this long anytime before.
You try connecting, their number’s changed. After getting through with the number – calls unanswered, sms’s unreplied. In this technological world, when reality doesn’t work, you go virtual. Imagine you aren’t even allowed to befriend them on a dumb networking site. It just puts me into a wandering state…..
The first thing I thought was did it end on a bad note? Hell no! We lost touch like we always do and I’m getting in touch like either of us would’ve done. Sometimes people end things so abruptly that they leave no means for you to ask what didn’t work out. It’s unfair.
Honestly, you cannot even feel bad about it. You know because you weren’t into a relationship of any sort - no love, no friendship, ofcourse no siblings (ha ha!). So, you can’t be brave & go question in the face because there were no commitments to this untagged connect you two shared.
I remember when the world around me didn’t make me happy, this unknown connect brought a smile on my face. I treasure her laughter she shared with me when she was stuck with an idiotic boyfriend & I made fun of it. There are such people in everyone’s life, am sure. Whenever the outer world stopped pleasing me, the cheeky little hope of being happy again just talking to her ignites.
Not this time though! It hurt. It feels sad because this was beyond hurting one another. Relationships hurt and this wasn’t one. We never talked about hurtful things, or talked emotional things we just talked only good things and laughed about the little greatness in our lives. This shouldn’t have hurt, it still did though. I guess you just have to accept that & do nothing about it. Find a person; label the relationship so that you can atleast question what went wrong? Yeah yeah!
But I’m glad I got to know her. It made so much sense to the both of us & in reality it hardly mattered. I’m getting busier again in life. Rest assured, whenever this world stops pleasing me and I would want a change, I’ll always remember her.

Life - Worth a Living

Being a blogger and an avid reader, ideally I should be able to quote about life in so many different ways. Honestly, I remember no quotes nor can I frame life in a sentence. Though, I know why I have been given this life and it makes me feel good.
I think life is beyond the conventional things of growing up, getting married, working, starting to fall ill, dying. It’s not about the other people and doing things to survive but to live. I would rather live with the insults than have the respect of being able to survive, I live my life to the fullest & that what matters the most.
Along with all our duties to our dear ones, we do have some duties of our souls. Why would your body be given a particular soul? I think there is some hunger of the soul which needs to be taken care of. Your body gets a life, you’re not supposed to throw it away meeting ends; there is some living that you’ve to experience just for your own sake. Just for your soul, just to thank god and tell him, “hey look, I am living life by making it worth the opportunity you’ve given. You wouldn’t mind coming back to me again.”
My purpose in life is to explore, I think that appeals to my inner self the most. Just a simple witness of someone in Ahmadabad who walked for miles in the scorching heat for selling his Rs. 1 water sachets, made me really happy for a long time. I was so amazed to get a chance to interact with that person & understand how all that was so effortless for him. Well, this was exploring for me. Traveling places, knowing people from various backgrounds, workplaces, traditions, and religions is such a delightful experience. It just concretes my belief in God to be honest. You know everyone says God is the creator of all & he is great. I was not the one to buy it so easily; I needed to experience that. Every time I come across a human greatness or nature’s phenomena I just wonder what an intelligent entity has created the world. And he surely is greater than I can ever imagine. So let’s pursue this feeling of awe further ahead.
Practically speaking, duties of life like earning money, getting married & other things are inevitable. You just can’t overlook that, though I think it can work along with your own purpose of life. Sometimes when you’re too stressed, you just take an off. Traveling helps you connect with your soul like nothing else. If you’re traveling alone, you would realize there is so much of potential & unused combat in you to take on any stress the world gives. So I don’t mind taking an off and go exploring the wonderful things god has created for us. It’s just my way of satisfying my soul. I think there’s too much to explore within ourselves to look anywhere else for Nirvana. I just find traveling a very helpful resource to explore/unleash the greatness in me while my outer self is witnessing the worldly greatness. And I feel there is this greatness within everyone, the way of coming across it may be different. Yours could be when you make someone happy, or when you love someone selflessly or when you do something for the society like say charity. There’s this friend of mine I know who says his soul would attain Nirvana – complete state of happiness and peace when atleast one person says he felt happy because he was there in their life. My Nirvana would be to explore places, know people from all across. Your Nirvana could be excelling in what you do to the highest level. Higher than everyone till you feel you’ve reached the complete potential within you. I think you would never get done with the potential within. Such is the power of the soul.
The purpose of the blog is just to share with everyone the need to do things for your inner self. We’ve become so intelligent & organized in life that we layout all our life and how we are going to spend it. Not many end up being happy with this, because perhaps the planning was to earn respect of being able to survive without difficulties. There was nothing for the soul & for just the life. ‘Just the life & just your inner self’ gets missed out in the planning we do. We’ve been surviving through life for the sake of it, let’s not make that mistake. Let’s start to live.
Find out what you truly love doing, it could be anything that quenches your soul. (May be music, pursue it. Who knows?) All this philosophy only because I think:

It would make you worth having life again.
Just think over the above line!


Bhavesh Dodi(y)a

Exam Busting Tips - in the exam hall

(Don't expect usual carry your hall tickets, pen, pencil and this is more a practical approach.)
- Before the answer sheets are given and after they are taken away in the end, these two time slots are the best times to get into some PR work. Trust me, you need the skills. These people next to you are going to play a major role in sketching your future. You don’t wanna mess with that.
- Hisaab pehle – read the question paper entirely and analyase ki kitni lag gayi hai? Your entire strategy depends on this 5 minute important analysis
- Please write what you know first, finish it off and then work on the answers – your friend’s answers that is.
- We know you are cool and don’t bother much, but please appear serious and stop moving so much. You don’t want the supervisor to have a suspicion on you.
- If you don’t know anything at all, stop looking at the guy who would burn his answer sheets with his speed of writing. Pacify yourself. Tell yourself that he has sucked all his life into books while you have other glories to your name – drinking whisky till you puke & that too of your friend’s money, going for a vacation & getting broke midway etc, etc. its just that today’s not your day.
- Since you know, there is no chance of you remembering that answer, start using your ammunitions – the chits or take your friends help. He is a friend indeed, don’t be ashamed. Call him out. And if there is a girl sitting around, even girls copy.
- My friend told me that don’t copy in the first half hour – 45minutes. That’s the time when the supervisor’s are at their alert best. Good advice I think
- Jitnaa dikh raha hain, khush rehne ka and then write it in your own words. It’s not the time for a perfect answer.
- One answer one look, may be two if your friend is co-operative enough. Take the picture, hold it in your mind for 5 sec and download it on the answer sheet. And ya, don’t curse your friend for bad handwriting. Trust me; it’s not the time for criticism.
- If you gonna take the risk of chits, the best advices have failed. Just remember to keep it simple and have the heart to do it. PLEASE DON’T SHOW IT ON YOUR FACE.
- Don’t be a beggar for answers. Sometimes you gotta show things as well. It’s when you give something to the world that the world pays off to you, you get it?
- Remember it’s about the quantity and less about the quality. “Attempt all four” bola hai toh karo all four attempt. Attempt karna zaruri hai
- Girls, wear decent clothes and go, that guy has to write his exams. He needs to concentrate on important things for a change. Guys, there is no one going to check you out (as usual I wish to say), so keep it simple and comfortable.
I have done enough of typing I think and I’m bored now. So, ATB people.

Exam Busting Tips - Before the exams

(Dedicated to all my friends giving their exams & whoever wants to use it..i have forgotten to tag many)
- First things first, STRAIGHT & CLEAR, if you’re having your exams and reading this, you definitely know you were wasting time. And since you’ve already wasted time, why not five minutes more, no big deal.
- Now according to me, early mornings are too early in the day to study. When you get up early, you know you have a lot of time to waste in the day. So, don’t study in the early mornings
- Study late in the night. Get up aaram se, go meet a few people in the evening (after some studying ofcourse) and by the night you would have ass on fire. So you would surely study for the fear of wasting your day.
- Now having breaks is a very big issue. Getting freshened up and all is a matter I wouldn’t overlook. Don’t go out of your locality to smoke (Smoke on the terrace). That is because while you smoke, just as drinks, a man pours his heart out when he smokes as well. Smoke alone, come back & study. For those who don’t light up, try music. Though I’m not sure if that helps
- Don’t waste time in making chits during exams, make it now. Keep it ready. If you come across something you know your ancestors won’t understand, make the chit. That also can be termed as Exam ki taiyari. A survey says, without the exam pressure, the chits are neat, small and the answers visible.
- For god’s sake and for once for your own self respect, don’t call up that scholar from class. You know he is going to lie and give you worries about how vast the portion is and how he also is not being able to complete his studies. Best: don’t call anyone
- Facebook – okay you can check what people are upto. And if you’re single and the girl you’ve the hots for is online, resist the temptation dost. Firstly, she would come online when you were about to leave and then she would take ages to reply. Toh aaj jaane de
- And yes ofcourse for the ones in loovee… Please don’t dare to show how much you love her that in spite of your exams you come to meet her till Churchgate. Don’t be an ass, just get in the hole and study. Save you affinity for the vacations, please
- I just remember ‘a-get-fresh’ thing for the ones who don’t smoke. You can go visit your regular adda for a while. But please don’t waste your entire day there telling everyone who comes how fucked your life is and how rarely you come here nowadays & how fast you have to leave from here to go study. We know how much time you’ve been here already.
- Exam times are times when our mind flatters itself a lot. We get the feelings of being into all the creative fields possible except for the one we’ve chosen. Singing out aloud and thinking of becoming a singer, acting out thinking of becoming an actor, writing blogs thinking to be a writer, clicking pictures…okay I will stop at that.
- Clicking pictures se yaad aaya, we all know how royally your getting done, so please stop clicking yourself around books and making bored faces. I’m bored of seeing such pictures on FB around this time. Be innovative, don’t upload anything.
- Even if you’ve sweet curd, touch your mother’s feet, sleep only in the left direction, wear the same socks, you would only know what you studied. So stop being an idiot & study. Enjoy – I wanted to say but don’t know if that would be easy.

Mean while I thank god for saving me the horror. It was a long blog & you’ve wasted some time. Get Back! ATB

Before I Blog

I’m really wondering what my next blog should be about. May be some general issue or some personal stuff but there isn’t anything really impactful happened to me off late. Nor do I want to make a statement to or convey something to someone. I have been there and written it all. It’s the time now when I’m getting exhausted of ideas. I knew this would be happening to me one day and I would be left with nothing to blog about. It is now that I feel that my caliber as a writer would be really tested.
I always wondered how great writers keep up with writing a column every week, may be they convince themselves to write something just because they are getting paid and have to write something for the column. Or may be ideas just come in like work happens when under pressure or they’re just pure genius.I have no such pressure of putting up a blog every week so I enjoy the time liberty. I write a blog only I fully am able to construct something that comes out of my soul. Despite the fact, to avoid my blogging habit getting deserted, I make sure I blog at least once a month. Too much of time I know, I’m behaving like this great film-maker I saw who said I just do very less though quality work. I think I don’t compromise on my blogs as well; I love my blogs because I speak from my heart & those are non-manipulated, truths bared all in whatever subject blogged.
Since I’ve been waiting for the last 16 hours in an almost deserted college corridors for work to begin, I just thought why not put some blog up. But I have no issues to raise today and am not descriptive enough to narrate the agony of my wait here. Yes, I also feel that writers are expert at metaphors, I’m still learning.
There are buzzilion things on my mind right now like the Pune blasts, Sachin’s Bharat Ratna controversy, naxalites, my future, girlfriend story, love agonies and blah blah. Deciding one thing is difficult. I’m the kind of a person who believes every blog should give out a message or raise a question. I’m not confident of going into the insights of any of these topics would serve the general agendas of my blogs. And when I write this, I feel it’s all because of twitter – the micro-blogging site.All the topics I mentioned above have been touched upon by me on twitter. So I’ve expressed my takes on all of them and I’m finding it difficult to convince my mind that there’s more to the feelings than 140 words. I should stop tweeting…no, now I’m confused about that as well.
It’s really not easy being a blogger, thought it must be fun receiving comments, (dis)likes of people when you write something. I’ve overgrown that reaction, I blog to somehow creep in the message of being happy in life. I won’t write until something strikes me. Even after all this combating with my mind so that I could write something, I couldn’t come up anything that would give out a message or raise a question. ‘Before I blog’, there’s too much of soulful thinking and brain storming. But once the pen starts it just has to start working and I realized, not all things need a moral. I can be descriptive sometimes. So until I come up with something next, tweet tweet guys!

Reasons Why You Should Support the Kolkata Knight Riders

1. Everyone thinks he’s a rebel/underdog. We Indians love to see the rebels winning. Dada is one and he’s a KKR. We want some motivation fellow rebellions, let’s support Dada’s win.
2. You can love him, you can hate him but you can’t ignore him. Yeah you guessed it right, am talking about SRK.
3. KKR is black & gold. Now you can’t deny that KKR jersey is obviously the coolest in the IPL.
4. Kolkata is the most densely populated city in the country. If Kolkata shouts for KKR at once, it’d be for the KKR win cause. So just support the biggest & loudest cause of the country.
5. There are no Australians this year. So, we already have the best wicketkeeper/batsman in the world in Brendon Mccullum.
6. No Akhtar, no Lee. Shane Bond with pace, Dada & Gayle with power sixes. Stand & deliver! Let’s see who stops KKR this year?
7. With a new coach & the daddy of Indian Cricket Captaincy – “Dada”, there’s no doubt KKR doesn’t rock this year.
8. It’s only KKR that has got a theme song that you can look cool singing. “All the king’s men we RULE!” Not to mention the merchandise, which is in the lines of ManU, Arsenal, and Chelsea.
9. Look at the sponsorship we get, even the media believes in us. We, the most profitable franchisee after all.
10. We lost twice and we won’t say its 20-20 and anything can happen. Unlike other teams we mind it BIG TIME. KKR’s ultimate saying is: we play, we play to win. Don’t like losing at anything, anytime.
11. And one BIG reason: It’s just because I love KKR and I’m a Knight Rider

ABAR JETAR PATH YE PHIR AISCHI
means we’ll be back
So till then Keep Rocking KNIGHT RIDERS!
Wear that black jersey, go to the stadiums and support KKR this IPL
Coz we’re the king’s and we RULE

Life & Nothing More Important

The best gift, man has ever so far got from God, is this life. The power to go through all the wonderful things it has, the privilege to witness the best God could ever do, the affiliation of the people around – such a wonderful opportunity – the opportunity to life. Suddenly, the responsibility of writing something on life has struck me because I’ve been witnessing something very disturbing. Mumbai has witnessed more than 30 suicides over the last month, mostly by students. How shocking can it get! Sorry to say, there is no sympathizing with someone who thinks ending it all would relieve him. I know may be the age is too less to understand the grandeur of life, but then I can atleast put up something for someone who can…

Life without its struggle would be so boring; it’s like that Counter-Strike game with no enemies. Yes, there are times when this world around starts looking so mean and there is no way out. You hit such a low that rising up seems too difficult. These are times when you just need to be a bit patient, be calm and think. It’s just that moment where you reach this point of helplessness and suicide looks the only relief. I’ve encountered this from a very close range and it’s just regret if you manage to live later. “I wish I would’ve suffered a moment more, it was not really that bad (the situation)”, said this person who failed his attempt at committing a suicide.
There have been times in everybody’s life where we feel we should just GO DIE. But then the agony of losing me that my loved ones would go through just because I was weak is irreparable. They love me more than I do to myself and it’s the case with almost everyone of us. It’s our life yes, but it just is not only about us. Someone has chosen to devote his entire life so that you could go study, go enjoy with your friends, buy that expensive cell phone, show off your designer jeans.
You’ve a lot to return to someone, there’s a lot of giving back and more importantly exploring the world. Imagine how unfortunate if you miss out on seeing the greatness of Taj Mahal and am not even talking about abroad. What death if you end it before experiencing the Laughter-till-Stomach-aches, without experiencing that happiness when you make someone’s day just because you were there in their life. That twenty four carat smile because you showed up today with that glitter in the eyes all because of you is to die for (ok no dying). Keep on counting dude. No life is big enough to make you feel content of living it to the fullest. Try as hard as you can, but the list of experiences would never end. How foolish if you end it without even putting up a good fight.
Nothing in this world can compare to being more important than life. Its fine if you’re ten minutes late for your physics lecture, just chillllll. Catch another one. Don’t risk it buddy. And more than risking being foolish and end this wonderful life yourself just because you couldn't pass or whatever.
Come on, nothing can break you so easily. Yeah!

Problem Spotted! Go, go, go!

Go CONQUER Jawan!


-Bhavesh Dodiya