When a relationship ends,
what hurts most is not that the relation ended,
it’s the way two people behave as complete strangers
whom we once thought we can’t just live without
Alright, alright, not necessarily the relationship you’re probably thinking about. I’ve not gone through a break up, so no girlfriend-boyfriend sob stories.
Let me begin with some introduction of what I want to share:-
I’ve been friends with this girl and we shared great chemistry with each other. I distinctly remember my rapport with her and the bonding I shared with her could give their boyfriends a run for their money. I never intended to stamp over her ‘the best friend tag’ but I think we became. And we never touched the emotional part & confessing feelings, we just had fun talking to each other and that’s it.
CUT TO REALITY:
We get busy in our lives so much; we miss out on a few people. On a lone Sunday, when you’ve got nothing to do, you just treasure the times and think of reconnecting with the person. I was sure she would be courteous because we didn’t just have to be in touch always, but when we connect it’s like lots of catching up. So, I knew there would be lots of things to talk about. Also, it was really a long gap of time we talked. It was never this long anytime before.
You try connecting, their number’s changed. After getting through with the number – calls unanswered, sms’s unreplied. In this technological world, when reality doesn’t work, you go virtual. Imagine you aren’t even allowed to befriend them on a dumb networking site. It just puts me into a wandering state…..
The first thing I thought was did it end on a bad note? Hell no! We lost touch like we always do and I’m getting in touch like either of us would’ve done. Sometimes people end things so abruptly that they leave no means for you to ask what didn’t work out. It’s unfair.
Honestly, you cannot even feel bad about it. You know because you weren’t into a relationship of any sort - no love, no friendship, ofcourse no siblings (ha ha!). So, you can’t be brave & go question in the face because there were no commitments to this untagged connect you two shared.
I remember when the world around me didn’t make me happy, this unknown connect brought a smile on my face. I treasure her laughter she shared with me when she was stuck with an idiotic boyfriend & I made fun of it. There are such people in everyone’s life, am sure. Whenever the outer world stopped pleasing me, the cheeky little hope of being happy again just talking to her ignites.
Not this time though! It hurt. It feels sad because this was beyond hurting one another. Relationships hurt and this wasn’t one. We never talked about hurtful things, or talked emotional things we just talked only good things and laughed about the little greatness in our lives. This shouldn’t have hurt, it still did though. I guess you just have to accept that & do nothing about it. Find a person; label the relationship so that you can atleast question what went wrong? Yeah yeah!
But I’m glad I got to know her. It made so much sense to the both of us & in reality it hardly mattered. I’m getting busier again in life. Rest assured, whenever this world stops pleasing me and I would want a change, I’ll always remember her.
