“If you love someone with pure feelings, no selfishness whatsoever, that’s love.”
“Love is not about asking, it’s about giving and not expecting anything in return.”
Love is this and it’s that, yeah that’s true love then and haven’t we heard a lot of these in books. A famous director once said that the beauty of love is in its wait, everything going great just doesn’t make a good story. I really am on a lookout for an answer. I mean what would prove that, “okay, you genuinely loved this person.” Lets say, I loved someone beyond boundaries, enjoyed the greatest of relationship with her, the best thing that had happened to me us till then. One day we suddenly broke and the girl was determined she’d never return. But I lived by the fact that if she loved me how can she just call it off. May be she’s just not bold enough to admit it. I tried getting her back but that took her further away.
And after a year of being positive I would get her, the belief got tested. I gradually started learning that she might really not be back. She might just not be back because she cared for someone else more than me and I was not her priority anymore. Well, now what am I supposed to do? Still keep on believing that I truly loved her so she would be back no matter what! I mean there should be something that gives me that hope, there’s none.
Belief and other bull shit are good but I think belief should be practical. If I continue to believe, then am I being practical? If I be practical and forget the great love I had for her, then is my love not genuine, weren’t they true feelings for the lady because I’m not believing I’d be with her. I’m being practical.
What are the characteristics of a true lover?
- Being loyal to her no matter what if she’s not around, even if she’s going around with someone else.
- Believe you would have her back one day despite ALL THIS, where there’s no hope really. Still believe and keep the faith.
- Not go around with other girls searching a potential partner, yeah obviously because you’re being a true lover. So why would you go around?
- In your prayers everyday, pray for her happiness, read her horoscope along with yours because you can’t help your concern for her.
- Though you know, you don’t mean a damn to her, just because its true love, she would always be the someone special. Your dreams are all with that someone.
Where does the impracticality/foolishness end?
The practical life says, Move on. You would find someone better. The impractical/foolish/belief on love says, hang on. If someone better, why not her?
The practical life says, once you start going around you’d forget everything. You just need someone. The impractical/foolish/belief on love says, “How can you go around with someone else? Then may be you never loved her for real. This can’t be so easy for you – move on. You’re demeaning the love you had for her – your ultimate soul mate is her.” The heart says, “Yeah, she still is the one.”
The practical life says you need someone to love you care for you, do those things to you. You’re just missing love and the attention. The impractical/foolish/belief on love says, you did that with her. That was so cute, why not her again? She’s the best with all those moments.
Should I be practical or should I believe in my feelings and wait for her. I don’t understand. The bottom line is that you want the one you love but that doesn’t mean you don’t even try loving some one else. You should be practical, that makes total sense. The impractical/foolish/belief on love motivates me that one day I would proudly say to the world, “I believed, waited, took the pain and I’ve her with me again.” That would be amongst the happiest times, the epitome of living life.” Just imagining the feeling tells me that this is true love. Don’t lose your belief.
Being practical is good and really should be the approach but the pleasure of experiencing the happiness of triumph over the wait appeals to me, “Fuck you practicality. I’m genuinely in love. I want my soul mate, she’s the one and I can’t help myself move on.”
Now then,
Am totally confused and don’t know what should I do? Should I be practical or should I believe in my love? I myself can fight for the both the point of views being right. I think both the approaches can be correct. I’m looking out for an answer. What’s up? What really works?
WHAT”S THE RIGHT THING TO DO IN LOVE???
