You know what comes to my mind when I just shoot the word 'happy?' I see this little boy laughing while he's letting himself loose, seeing the sky with a great scenic beauty around. Now, what would really make me happy? Perhaps, getting a few things in life would make me happy, now say these things:
- Having great health, lots of wealth and proud parents.
- The best girlfriend(s), or a spouse.
- The best of buddies.
Assumingly, I have all this things one day (going by ma records I might not) but I'm very good at imagining things for real, say I have it right now. Okay, I would be happy, but for how long. Obviously I would want to be happier. The parameters are met, that doesn't mean I would be happy forever. Say now, this would make me happy:
- A child
- A BMW 5 series or a Mercedes
- A sea facing bungalow at Bandra
I would get it and I would again shift my parameters and the life finds its reason to be unhappy about not having something.
The simple point I wish to put across is that the want for more never dies (human nature). But I guess I don’t want it to be a reason to make me dull. After having a great love story besides a tragic end of it; why do I think a greater love story and perhaps a more tragic end would make me happy?
Confession: not having someone to love makes me sad sometimes.
Going to college without a bike or a car under my ass makes me sad! Having a cell phone which dies out even after being fully charged twice a day really frustrates me.
Not having things makes me unhappy. That happens with everyone I guess, doesn’t it?
EUREKA!!!
Something majestic happened with me the other day. No matter how tired I'm, my mind never gets tired of coming up with something that makes me think & forget that I have to sleep and break the monotony of getting up at 10.35 ( 5 minutes of extra sleep after my mom yells at 10.30). I slept with the above mentioned thoughts and I got a dream...
Some person whom I consider my idol in life was online at the other end and we were chatting. (The person’s identity is not revealed to avoid copyright issues)
Here's it:
XXX: Dude, hows u? hows life?
dodiabhavesh13_30: Nuin yaar, juss getting bored in here, u say???
XXX: I'm great! Am happy having fun. Having a rocking time!!
(Other adjectives are usual online words for me, but the use of the word Happy was new to the yahoo online fraternity besides the fact that there was not one adjective that I felt was applicable to his life)
dodiabhavesh13_30: what’s happened? I mean did u get a Vertu phone o wat that u so badly wanted???
XXX: No yaar mad o wat?
dodiabhavesh13_30: so????
XXX: I just realized that even if someone gives me the phone today, I guess I wouldn't be happy for much longer. U knew why because I have it and now I will have to move on to something else!
dodiabhavesh13_30: hmmm!!!(Trying to find sense)
XXX: I want to be happy with the fact that I'm doing something to get that. Ya if I would have been doing nothing abt it and u would’ve asked me this; my answer might have been different. But hey am happy and enjoying!!! U say hows u? hows life?
(I didn’t reply for a good 5minutes I guess...)
XXX: BUZZ!!!
After waiting for 10seconds to buzz again
XXX: BUZZ!!!
dodiabhavesh13_30: I'm happy
dodiabhavesh13_30 has signed out
Its 10.35! The next morning...that chat still spinning my mind. I skipped my breakfast, sipped in some tea; I left for a place I visit when I’m not feeling good along with a diary and a pen.
Jotted down things that would make me happy. Out of the 5things I was actually working for 3 and half things that would make me happy.
(Half because I don’t know whether orkutting helps getting you good looking gals)
3 is to 2!! More reasons to be happy. The whole idea is to look back a little and see how good are you trying to be happy? Are you concentrating on being happy or on being sad?
Trust me I'm trying, trust me you're trying, the whole world is trying to be happy. Just that we are seeing our happiness beyond the achievements. I guess the happiness is in the process!
And then even if you don’t get what you've wanted. You wouldn’t be sad, because something that makes u happy, you won’t mind doing again! You might well try harder and achieve something more than what you were set out for. And after you get it, the human nature says MORE
No problems,
Bigger want, bigger the process and eventually bigger the happiness!!!
The fact that we're doing things to make our life better is a good enough reason to be happy. A line in a very famous movie Bawarchi where Mr. Rajesh Khanna said, "It’s so simple to be happy, but so difficult to be simple" It’s this journey of accomplishing the things that must be enjoyed!! Don’t complicate your happiness, make it simpler! It’s really not that difficult...
May be someday when this person adds you up on Yahoo! He might ask u this,
dodiabhavesh13_30: Hey what’s up? Hows U? Hows life?
Don't worry Be Happy!!!
- Bhavesh Dodia
March 28, 2009
March 25, 2009
Idiotic Insane and what noT!!!
"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain."
Not by Me bt thot must be shared!!!
March 20, 2009
(UN)CONSCIOUS (UN)LUCK
LUCK!!! Haven’t we always read this word somewhere besides fate around? Haven’t we heard these words somewhere besides success or failure around? Haven’t we used this word somewhere besides making/breaking it around? Being in a very analytical mood, where my unaccomplished dreams are haunting me, I’m into an inspection today. I’m into a detection today of the role of LUCK in someone’s, my fate destiny, life! How much does this LUCK matter?
A person who’s always been observant of people around, I think people have been lucky. I mean when you look back at things they did, the way they reacted to situations, the way they did EVERYTHING right is so natural to them. Just in case you happen to ask such a person about how he could do it, he’d say, “Dude, I didn’t even notice myself doing it.” Yes, but on serious accounting, its conscious hard work and sheer determination.
How often do we see ourselves, people around us, unlucky. These people are accounting every move, analyzing every word said, gauging every result for even a molecule of work done. Even after all these things, they just do ONE thing wrong and the results are different. Just in case you happen to ask this person, how he couldn’t do it, he’d say, “Dude, you know what? You won’t believe I did everything correctly but for this one thing. I guess I wasn’t lucky enough.”
I think I might have been in the second category of people and my thought process was of the unlucky types. I think I did believe in being unlucky until the last 5minutes. I believed I was amongst the most observant people around and I could analyze people, actions and anything right. But some accounting helped…
Here’s WHAT I GOT
People who do everything correctly and successfully are lucky because they work consciously and get unconsciously lucky. People who do almost everything correctly but for few things are unlucky because they work unconsciously and wish luck/ results on work not done to the fullest CONSCIOUSLY.
Compare the acknowledgements on remarkable achievements:
“I never in my life thought I’d be here.”
“I never imagined I’d get this award, I thought I was just like any other artist.”
“God must be crazy to land me in here”
Don’t we here this often and think about how often this,
“I was going to get here for sure, I knew it.”
“I was born lucky and I knew god was giving me this.”
Not much often, we guess!!!
Someone somewhere in the skies wants people to be lucky and make them say, “God must be crazy to give me this, I’m really lucky.” I just feel he just wants us to be unconscious of it. Till the last 5minutes I was consciously unlucky as well. But you know what, someone, somewhere in the sky must be really freaked out to put this thought into my mind suddenly. I’m lucky.” He just wanted me to pick up the pen and the book. I did my work of starting to scribble and he did his!
I think I did everything correctly putting this one up. Just about knowing the difference between conscious and unconscious and about being lucky/unlucky and gauging the right track! This thought might be known to all of us, but there is still a lot of enigma around the word. I feel privileged as a writer to begin discovering the myth, the enigma!
PS: I’m sure you would say, this was fabulous! I’m a born writer. Ha ha ha!!(Finding LUCK CONSCIOUSLY)
PEACE, WISH YOU LUCK!!!!
- BHAVESH DODIA
A person who’s always been observant of people around, I think people have been lucky. I mean when you look back at things they did, the way they reacted to situations, the way they did EVERYTHING right is so natural to them. Just in case you happen to ask such a person about how he could do it, he’d say, “Dude, I didn’t even notice myself doing it.” Yes, but on serious accounting, its conscious hard work and sheer determination.
How often do we see ourselves, people around us, unlucky. These people are accounting every move, analyzing every word said, gauging every result for even a molecule of work done. Even after all these things, they just do ONE thing wrong and the results are different. Just in case you happen to ask this person, how he couldn’t do it, he’d say, “Dude, you know what? You won’t believe I did everything correctly but for this one thing. I guess I wasn’t lucky enough.”
I think I might have been in the second category of people and my thought process was of the unlucky types. I think I did believe in being unlucky until the last 5minutes. I believed I was amongst the most observant people around and I could analyze people, actions and anything right. But some accounting helped…
Here’s WHAT I GOT
People who do everything correctly and successfully are lucky because they work consciously and get unconsciously lucky. People who do almost everything correctly but for few things are unlucky because they work unconsciously and wish luck/ results on work not done to the fullest CONSCIOUSLY.
Compare the acknowledgements on remarkable achievements:
“I never in my life thought I’d be here.”
“I never imagined I’d get this award, I thought I was just like any other artist.”
“God must be crazy to land me in here”
Don’t we here this often and think about how often this,
“I was going to get here for sure, I knew it.”
“I was born lucky and I knew god was giving me this.”
Not much often, we guess!!!
Someone somewhere in the skies wants people to be lucky and make them say, “God must be crazy to give me this, I’m really lucky.” I just feel he just wants us to be unconscious of it. Till the last 5minutes I was consciously unlucky as well. But you know what, someone, somewhere in the sky must be really freaked out to put this thought into my mind suddenly. I’m lucky.” He just wanted me to pick up the pen and the book. I did my work of starting to scribble and he did his!
I think I did everything correctly putting this one up. Just about knowing the difference between conscious and unconscious and about being lucky/unlucky and gauging the right track! This thought might be known to all of us, but there is still a lot of enigma around the word. I feel privileged as a writer to begin discovering the myth, the enigma!
PS: I’m sure you would say, this was fabulous! I’m a born writer. Ha ha ha!!(Finding LUCK CONSCIOUSLY)
PEACE, WISH YOU LUCK!!!!
- BHAVESH DODIA
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